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Stand By Me

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When I express my fears, my failures or shortcomings to you as my friend, my companion, my better half, my sister, my brother whatever our relation is. I am not asking you to pick up my slack or to convince me that “it ain’t so bad” or that “The lord works in mysterious ways”. Neither am I asking you to pick up my slack or pick me up. Granted a few positive words are appreciated, but all I really want is for you to accept that I will not necessarily agree with your outlook and I will not pretend I am not down in the dumps because you say so. We all deal with our own falls in our own unique ways and how I feel pain is not the same as you.

I need to recognize and understand just how far down I have fallen to get an understanding of just how far I need to climb back up. I refuse to go blindly. It doesn’t make me a negative person, but rather a realistic person. All I ask is that you continue being the best friend, sister, brother, whatever you are to me, and not try to “Pick Me Up” or live my life for me. Trust me if you insist you will get tired, you will get frustrated and you will end up resenting me. When all I really needed was for you to carry on being you and respect my being me and doing things the way I do me.

***NaffStarr***

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Aaaaaand you wonder why …

Ever felt like all your relationships are the same? That no matter how different they start they always seem to end the same. You must be at that point where you’re starting to think all men/women are the same right? Or you could be that real decent and oh so rare “starting with the man/woman in the mirror” type that starts thinking they might be the problem. I mean, YOU are the common denominator in all this afteral.

Well in truth you are but that doesn’t necessarily mean you’re at fault. The thing is, many people will only have one relationship in their lives. Two if they’re lucky. Yes you read me right, it is all just one relationship with a series of different partners.

See, everyone has that one relationship they can never forget. That one relationship where, at its height, everything was perfect, he/she was the perfect girlfriend/boyfriend and even though it ended she/he is the standard by which every partner or potential partner is judged. People will be in this relationship until that one partner comes along, you know, the one that comes and “Hits them with the futuristic” and absolutely changes their whole view on relationships. Only then, when their mind gets so blown it finally awakens to the fact that the perfect relationship is what you make of it. Simply put, we carry the expectations, shortcomings and insecurities of that one relationship to every single relationship we get into next until we finally have this awakening. Only then, does the move onto relationship number TWO occur. And if all goes well, this could be their last or the first of many amazing experiences.

Take a look at your situation, if you’re constantly being compared, or a previous partner is constantly being referenced … Well my Guy/Gurl … You are just another hopeful contestant trying out for the lead in a relationship that isn’t yours. If you find that you’re constantly referencing your best relationship yet, bruh/babe … Give the other child a break n stop wasting their time. The real question here is, if they were so perfect that everybody else has to be better than them to stand any chance at a fair shot … Why the FUDGE are they not HERE?

If you can’t find the answer to this question, I’ll give it to you.(And you have options) They were either:
1. Not Perfect or
2. You weren’t good enough.

Sooo, now that we’ve cleared the air, how about you just be a decent human being (Pull that stick out your …) and
1. Be ALONE till you get over yourself and your Bull$#!t childish issues. OR
2. Just show the person who obviously thinks you’re worth their time some love.

NaffStarr


Collage

What is a puzzle?

puz·zle – /ˈpəzəl/
verb
1. cause (someone) to feel confused because they cannot understand or make sense of something.
noun
1. a game, toy, or problem designed to test ingenuity or knowledge.

With society having programmed us with a set idea of what the “Perfect” relationship is, it is no wonder then that, just as with the puzzles one can buy from the store, we all have a vivid picture of what a perfect relationship should be. In the search for it, we set out to find the perfect partner, one who “Completes” us, makes us whole and completes this beautiful picture we have in our minds. In this situation, great care is taken into finding the perfect partner, with numerous, standardized responses factored into the choice of partner. Intelligent decision making, careful analysis of the perfect partner is required and anything out of place is eliminated. The only emotions that matter in this scenario, are those that come when the picture is complete.

In truth, the “Perfect” relationship is a collage.

col·lage – /kəˈläZH,kô-,kō-/
noun
1. a piece of art made by sticking various different materials such as photographs and pieces of paper or fabric onto a backing.

A collage is about different entities, sharing the same space. Feeding off each other, allowing a great sense of freedom, for betterment of expression and artistic interpretation. Compromise is the natural order of things, as all the different entities all have their strengths and weaknesses. A collage is less about perfection and more about texture, contrast and how things that shouldn’t work together, bound by the glue that is Love, come together to create the perfect picture. Their imperfection making them perfect.

NaffStarr


Family

Family is an extension of God on earth,

To love and protect one and

sometimes to teach those hard lessons that only hard love can.


The Dream Snatcher

Dreams

it is in this realm that our passions are born,

this very realm where are our battles are lost and won.

in our dreams our victories are plotted,

and our losses discounted.

in this realm we are at our strongest

yet at our most weakest.

reality our mortal enemy

our upbringing leader of the mutiny.

we are taught to limit ourselves,

to be “REALISTIC”

Fear is the Dream Snatcher


MY DREAMS

My Dreams,

The Future According to Me

For it is in our Dreams

That we find who we aspire to Be

Reality is a dream

So all i can do, is ME